Stories of Siu Mai, Char Siu and Ma Lai Ko
Saturday 9 September 2017
Day 14
I thought I was done with the tears by Day 3 (when I must have cried 8-10 times). Friends all told me I was strong - for deleting him off my social media and leaving all the Whatsapp groups within the hour. I know I had to at least do that, or else my sanity will not be preserved.
I thought what we had was strong. Those memories of how we started at the pier by Central, the countless shared happy memories of when we did visits to new restaurants, attending new events, travelling to new places together, and while we made even more plans and promises to do even more together. How we stood by each other during when each of us went through some tough times in careers, in sickness. The things a couple would have actually vow to do as proclaimed in marriage vows. How we would talk about where we would prefer to have our future home, how many kids, getting dogs,...
It stings, it hurts. On these silent moments alone, it is hard to pass them through without thinking about the day he initiated the breakup. And how he refused to and just stopped communicating. He was no longer the guy I knew. He had clammed up and treated me as a stranger. That really hurt. And he denied me the door to his heart right there and then. Threw away the map and the key.
And then the memories keep popping in every now and then; sometimes they just come in torrents and floods. The first few days I was just trying to keep myself occupied...but at every corner would either be a symbol of our shared memories or I would get reminded of the words he said to me in happier times.
And then I wonder if he feels the same. Did he feel the grieve? The pain? The void? The sadness? The regret of that decision?
And can someone who has been so dear and intimate just turn a 180 and just cut all contact? No responses to my parting message (where I said he owed me an apology). Were the 3 years really nothing to him but a figment of my own imagination that we were in love? Was it a decision made cos he was confused? Were the parents really the reason? But what about the times he assured me he has the ultimate choice? Or was it simply he stopped seeing me in his future? Or was there another someone involved? Then why was I introduced to his parents? Why Why Why? Why was I being abandoned?
Are the occasional pangs of pain stabbed at my heart a reflection of my pain? Or was I feeling the pain he is experiencing?
Today a friend gave me some advice - a guy will keep the relationship going if he wanted to. And I should still look back at the years in fondness as there were many happy moments which made my life richer. And not everyone in our life is meant to stay in our life forever.
The last one really hit hard. I wish he would be in my life forever. And then I broke down in tears...and decided I had to type something cos my headspace was getting way too clouded.
Wednesday 17 June 2015
Still in HK!
Anyways, a short summary on what I've been up to these few months...
- Finished my round 3 of exams! And I was the only candidate in the whole of HK for one of the papers....
- Hung out with Mr Lee from ABDB in the midst of studying for exams haa
- Levelled up in the realm of cooking by making okonomiyaki! It's all about the bbq sauce and kewpie at the end of the day :P
- Learnt that some friends in the group could have different personas depending on who they hang out with....
- Introduced A to Mr Lee
- Was introduced to A's friend who was visiting from the States
Sunday 1 March 2015
And the whole world is on your case,
I could offer you a warm embrace
To make you feel my love.
When the evening shadows and the stars appear,
And there is no one there to dry your tears,
I could hold you for a million years
To make you feel my love.
I know you haven't made your mind up yet,
But I will never do you wrong.
I've known it from the moment that we met,
No doubt in my mind where you belong.
I'd go hungry; I'd go black and blue,
And I'd go crawling down the avenue.
No, there's nothing that I wouldn't do
To make you feel my love.
The storms are raging on the rolling sea
And on the highway of regret.
The winds of change are blowing wild and free,
You ain't seen nothing like me yet.
I could make you happy, make your dreams come true.
Nothing that I wouldn't do.
Go to the ends of the Earth for you,
To make you feel my love
To make you feel my love
Sunday 23 November 2014
A time of firsts
- Something very personal which only one other person in the world knows about. In any case, an experience to learn from, and move forward from! :)
- Conducting my first training session in Cantonese. Yep, I know it's old news, but it's a massive milestone in my life. Let's just hope that the feedback won't be too bad....
- Meeting my ex-big-boss in HK + actually having an awesome time catching up with her about non-work stuff over dinner. Ahhh, sometimes it's just nice to see a familiar face ain't it.
- Getting to meet the other colleagues in both the local and regional teams, during the farewell/retirement party of our Regional boss. Got to chat with a few other faces and a new colleague...and I have to say I manage to make an impression (I do hope it's a good one and not the reputation of my drinking tolerance...but then again, that's a plus point? haaa)on quite a few of the Regional + Country heads. And with good wine and laughter, what's there not to enjoy!
- First time having cocktails that literally blew my mind. My friends and I were actually hanging out at The Lab where they had special concoctions with Ginseng, Luo Han Guo etc. And that was already pretty good...but when we were brought to Isono @ PMQ, where we were met by Nic (who's apparently the grandmasters of the mixologists back at The Lab) and got to savour his mixes......phew! Mind-blowing, and like my friend said, "He really takes cocktails to a whole other level". I couldn't agree more - he mixed up two rounds of cocktails for us after learning about our preferences.
- Round 1: Took a sip and we were like 0.o. Goes down so smooth but doesn't taste like it has alcohol (there is alcohol in there if you were wondering). None of the overpowering alcohol content or unbalanced sugary aftertaste.
- Round 2: This round of cocktails were stronger and more advanced. Friend 1 had a drink that smelled like whiskey but contained none of it. Nic challenged us to guess the ingredients....of which I got the major one correct! Friend 2 had a drink called Jungle Fever (which is totally delicious), and I got all the flavours correct! Ok, with a little prompting from the Grandmaster himself...I myself, got a drink called Poison which is a blend of 7 spirits. Nic enjoys creating cocktails where no one actually can tell what goes into it...so I was feeling a little accomplished from his challenge haa
Saturday 1 November 2014
Entrepreneurs - reading about one and talking with another
So I've just recently finished reading this book called "Starting from Scrap" which is about a 22-year old guy who arrived in HK from the States, built his own business and sold it after about 8 years. Pretty insightful stuff about starting your business and dealing with the cyclical nature of things ...written in an entertaining manner w lots of humour thrown in.
Then I was asked by my friend (whom I had brunch with earlier in the day) to join her and her friend for drinks later in the night. Found out that the friend is an entrepreneur too! A jet-setting successful one in the private equity industry. Was very interesting to hear him sharing his perspectives on business stuff, politics and systems, on what makes him tick, when to onboard partners and then basically on what makes a city attractive.
Was an unexpectedly nice time hanging out w an interesting individual, all while having some awesome food from Gordon Ramsay's, and then adjourning to a speakeasy with martini cocktails like "James Bond" and "Banoffee pie".
The best quote I heard during the night is ,"When you need money, you will make money".
Needless to say, I emerged the night with renewed perspectives. I guess I'm beginning to appreciate why people say you really do get to meet lots of different kinds of people here in HK...
Sunday 26 October 2014
Anyways, I have seen a couple of friends doing the Gratitude challenge on Facebook. I've actually done this exercise way before this whole trend started, but just to show I'm not lagging behind those trends, here's my take on it:
Things I am grateful for:
- Coming home to a parcel hung outside my door.
Turns out it was Michael+Hanny who sent some Tim Tams my way all the way from Perth for my birthday! :D And the Adriano Zumbo limited editions to top the whole surprise off! Such a sweet friend! And all just b'cos of my comment that Tim Tams are expensive here in HK.
Really heartwarming gesture to feel I'm not forgotten...especially the couple of friendships that I had to *ahem*, according to Taylor Swift, "Shake it Off"!
- Tinder.
- My ricecooker + Thermos soup pot
- TV
Tuesday 7 October 2014
A whirlwind of meet ups!
While I am still recovering from the exhaustion from the trip to Korea (and braving the one hour security check at Inchein airport and another one hour plus trip from HK airport no thanks to Occupy Central... ), I'm preparing for the parents' visit on Thursday! Yippeeee yay
Miffy meep from Toes in the Sand came for a weekend visit 2 weeks ago...and boy was I so thankful to be able to spend some girl bonding time together. ..even though it was for 2 days!! So nice to finally have a friend over! :) we ate and ate, and tried horse riding at the Hermes exhibition, shopped, and had a slight panic in trying to get to the airport (what's new after Taipei lol)
Anyways, in Seoul I was a few days later for another dear friend's wedding. I met Sunmi at Hallym University when I was there for summer exchange a grand 7 years ago...and I'm so happy for her. People often comment that I must be very nice to go to weddings overseas especially where it is self-funded...but I tend to look at it a little differently - I feel honoured to be invited to weddings who revel in me gracing and sharing their happy occasion. Of course, I know (and have experienced) those who are just out doing it for some other motives. ..but I've since learn how to filter such peeps away. Also nice to meet up with Sangwoo who has grown into a fine guy! Can't say the sane about E - he might be one of those I won't be hanging out with next time I return.
Anyways, at the urge of J, my impromptu dinner partner in SG and life advisor (haahaa), I shall continue to try to make new friends here ...so I won't have to eat dinner alone lol! And also with the renwed perspective from Korea, I believe there are always gems out there! So I have registered myself on meetup.com (no it's not an online dating site) and signed up on some of the activities (actually one so far haa).
So there you go! A little rough at the start, but I'm sure things will be going smooth from now on!